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My first book, The Courage to Trust: a guide to building deep and lasting relationships (2005) came into being as a result of a phone call from the acquisitions editor at New Harbinger Publications in 2002. WOW! A cold call from a publisher inviting me to try out my ideas on trust and betrayal! How easy…
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A favorite new book is Sam Bennett’s “Get It Done!” (Samantha, but she’s called Sam). I really like the book, and it has inspired me to write my own next draft. Her premise that that if a dream or goal has NO energy, we do not procrastinate. We just don’t need to do it. But…
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I just spent an hour cleaning out my journal and as a side effect, reviewed my goals and to-dos for the past six months. Some I accomplished, many not, and I felt a perplexing mixture of pride and defeat. I then recognized something rather obvious about my “to-dos” and it struck me as important to…
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My relationship with the To Do list is rather complicated, and it goes back a long way. In the olden days, and I am talking about sixth grade in the early 1960’s, I created a poster-sized chart with lines and places for stars and check marks. I taped it to the back of my bedroom…
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This simple (ha!!) story from The Pocket Pema Chödrön, is on page 72. I love how specifically she details the actions that scared me, all of us, as children. “This is how I make you do what makes me comfortable and keeps you from knowing how important you really are!” could have been the thought bubble over…
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People often ask me about how to increase self-confidence so they can try new things. They imagine confidence to be a magically acquired inner quality, and that successful people are naturally fearless, willing to try new experiences, managing to look cool in the process. The real path to self-confidence is to develop COMPETENCE with practice,…
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I came across these quotes, scrolling quickly, then slower, then I stopped and realized I was being reminded that nothing is more important, ever, than stopping and letting in pure beauty, wisdom, or love. Enjoy… “What keeps us from joining the dance The dust particles do?…” * “We should split the sack Of this culture,…
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Just last night I was trying to explain this idea to my beloved teenager. Quick to anger, quicker to make assumptions, he was being cooked in his own stew of confusion. I offered my own experience that patience was a virtue, but BEING patient was a skill. Then this morning I find far more elegant and usable guidance from the…
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Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. As stated by Marianne Williamson Is this true, that we are all open to giving and receiving and being pure love when we take our first breath, and soon after the lessons begin to convince us that we have to be perfect to be…